Helping Christians Recover from Narcissistic Abuse and Rebuild Healthy Boundaries, Clarity, and Emotional Safety.

You are not crazy. You are not weak. You were manipulated. And you can now recover.

Brian Howard

Author, Educator, Speaker on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Christian Relationship Boundaries

The Books They are Talking About!

Trusted by thousands of readers seeking freedom from spiritual manipulation

• Start with the book that started it all! - The Christian Narcissist

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If You've Ever Felt Confused, Gaslit, or Spiritually Manipulated...

You're not alone.Many Christians are taught to ignore red flags, tolerate harmful behavior, and call it "grace," "submission," or "faithfulness."My work helps you recognize unhealthy patterns, trust your discernment, and build relationships rooted in truth, safety, and mutual respect.

Where I Come In

I help Christians recover from narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, and toxic faith-based relationships by providing clear, practical, and biblically grounded guidance.

How I Can Support

📘 START HERE: Read the books that have helped over 1400 readers worldwide recognize narcissistic abuse, rebuild boundaries, and reclaim emotional clarity.🎙 Invite me to speak on your podcast, at your church or conference🤝 Explore individual or group recovery coaching✍️ Access practical tools for healing, clarity, and discernment

If you're trying to understand narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, or spiritual manipulation, the books are the best place to begin.They provide the clarity, language, and validation many survivors never received!

Who I Am

I’m Brian Howard. Author, educator, and speaker focused on boundaries, narcissism, and emotionally healthy faith.My work equips individuals, churches, and organizations to recognize unhealthy relational patterns, name them clearly, and replace them with safety, wisdom, and agency.This isn’t about cynicism. It’s about clarity.This work began as a father’s desire to protect his daughters, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.I wanted them to recognize manipulation early, trust their discernment, and never confuse control for love, especially in Christian environments.What started as guidance for my own family grew into a calling to help others recover what manipulation tried to take: clarity, confidence, and peace.

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Brian Howard provides Christian relationship education, narcissistic abuse recovery resources, and faith-based emotional healing support for individuals, churches, and organizations nationwide.

📚 Books That Help You Recognize, Protect, and Heal

🛡️ Learn to identify manipulation, spiritual abuse, and emotionally unsafe relationships
⚓ Rediscover identity, peace, and security grounded in ChristThese books are especially helpful if you are:• Recovering from narcissistic, toxic, or spiritually manipulative relationships
• Trying to understand how gaslighting left you confused, blamed, or destabilized
• Seeking Christian guidance for dating and marriage
• Healing from spiritual or church-related emotional abuse
• Learning to set healthy, biblical boundaries without guilt
• Trying to understand relationship red flags and green flagsMy hope is for you to see clearly, trust your discernment again, and rebuild relationships rooted in truth, safety, and mutual respect.

• 👉 Books and Resources

Spiritual abuse can be the most confusing type. The use of scripture. Righteous-sounding verbiage. Charm that masquerades as leadership or "anointing." All while quietly controlling, manipulating, and destabilizing those closest to them.This book helps you recognize the warning signs early, understand the tactics used by narcissists in Christian environments, and reclaim the clarity and confidence their manipulation stole from you.If you've ever felt confused, blamed, or spiritually shamed, then this book will expose their darkness so you can see the light again.

• On Amazon: The Christian Narcissist

Many Christians are taught to prioritize faith, but not how to recognize emotional health.This book helps you identify red flags early, recognize emotionally safe partners, and avoid relationships rooted in control, confusion, or instability.You'll learn how to discern the difference between partners who drain you and partners who genuinely support your peace, growth, and emotional safety.Healthy relaitonships are not confusing. They are clear, calm, and life-giving.

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The testimonials featured are excerpts from public Amazon reviews. Individual experiences may vary.

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🌿 Educational Coaching & Recovery Support

If you're struggling to make sense of a confusing, emotionally draining, or spiritually manipulative relationship, these sessions provide clarity, validation, and a path forward.

In addition to writing, I offer faith-based educational coaching sessions designed to help individuals and groups understand narcissistic abuse, rebuild healthy boundaries, and restore emotional clarity and confidence.These sessions help you:✔ Recognize narcissistic and emotionally manipulative behavior
✔ Develop healthy, biblical boundaries without guilt or confusion
✔ Break free from trauma bonding and emotional control
✔ Rebuild self-worth grounded in your identity and security in Christ
✔ Prepare for emotionally healthy, stable, and life-giving relationshipsThese sessions are educational, faith-based, and ministry-focused. They are not a substitute for licensed mental health counseling.

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🎤 Speaking, Workshops, and Church Training

I speak at churches, conferences, podcasts, and leadership events on topics including:• Narcissism in Christian relationships
• Spiritual abuse and church trauma
• Healthy Christian dating and marriage preparation
• Emotional safety and boundary-setting for believers
• Recognizing wolves in shepherd’s clothing

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Totally Forgiven by God!

No matter how many good deeds we think will earn us a ticket into heaven, our deeds won't be enough. Only holy people can enter heaven, and God’s standard of holiness is perfection. We are all guilty of breaking God’s perfect Law.However, the good news is that Jesus paid our penalty and took our punishment. On the cross, He bore the wrath of God for my sin, your sin, and the sin of anyone who repents and believes that His sacrifice is sufficient to save them. Our faith in Jesus’ finished work saves us from God’s wrath. Because of Him, we can stand forgiven before God. Free from guilt and condemnation!God’s mercy not only forgives, but His grace promises that there will never be condemnation again. You are God’s fully forgiven child once and for all. You have eternal life, not just endless existence, but the very life of Christ Himself. Only one life is eternal, and that’s Jesus’. Therefore, you are grafted into the true Vine, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. Into Jesus, the Tree of Life.In Him, we became new creations with new hearts and new desires for holiness. We can still choose to sin, but sin no longer has the power to rule us. Sin itself hasn’t died, but we died to sin. We were buried with Christ and raised to walk in newness of life. Dead to sin and alive to God!

SCRIPTURE - OUR SIN AND SEPARATIONRomans 3:23
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,Isaiah 59:2
But your wrongdoings have caused a separation between you and your God,
And your sins have hidden His face from you so that He does not hear.Matthew 5:48
Therefore you shall be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.James 2:10
For whoever keeps the whole Law, yet stumbles in one point, has become guilty of all.Romans 6:23a
For the wages of sin is death…

SCRIPTURE - CHRIST TOOK OUR PLACEIsaiah 53:5–6
But He was pierced for our offenses,
He was crushed for our wrongdoings;
The punishment for our well-being was laid upon Him,
And by His wounds we are healed.
All of us, like sheep, have gone astray,
Each of us has turned to his own way;
But the Lord has caused the wrongdoing of us all
To fall on Him.Romans 5:8–9
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from the wrath of God through Him.1 Peter 2:24
and He Himself brought our sins in His body up on the cross, so that we might die to sin and live for righteousness; by His wounds you were healed.John 19:30
Therefore when Jesus had received the sour wine, He said, “It is finished!” And He bowed His head and gave up His spirit.

SCRIPTURE - HOW TO RECEIVE THIS GIFTMark 1:15
“The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand; repent and believe in the gospel.”Romans 10:9–10
that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;
for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation.Acts 16:31
“Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household.”

SCRIPTURE - FORGIVENESS, JUSTIFICATION, NEW LIFERomans 5:1
Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.Romans 8:1
Therefore there is now no condemnation at all for those who are in Christ Jesus.Hebrews 10:17–18
“And their sins and their lawless deeds
I will no longer remember.”
Now where there is forgiveness of these things, an offering for sin is no longer required.2 Corinthians 5:21
He made Him who knew no sin to be sin in our behalf, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.

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